Professional surfer Sarah Brady has claimed she suffered emotional abuse at the hands of her now ex, Jonah Hill. Brady, who dated actor/director Jonah Hill (“You People”) from 2021 until 2022, posted screenshots of texts allegedly sent to her by Hill. The texts show an alarming amount of controlling behavior, and these images have ignited internet debates about boundaries and weaponizing therapy lingo.
While Instagram stories disappear after 24 hours, there is no shortage of screenshots from the post floating around. These messages were all allegedly sent by Hill during his relationship with Brady, while they were in couple’s counselling. Hill, among other things, warned Brady not to maintain friendships with women “who are in unstable places,” and to not “surf with men.”
There are also texts demanding she remove images of herself “in a bathing suit surfing or not,” from her Instagram. These demands were allegedly made to comply with Hill’s “boundaries for a romantic partnership.” Another message reads, “I love how your therapist thinks I suck. I literally am the best boyfriend. On earth.”
This is where a lot of the accusations about weaponizing therapy lingo are coming from, since this is not how you set healthy boundaries. It also begs the question if Hill had an issue with his girlfriend being in a swimsuit, why would he date a surfer? A job that literally requires form-fitting clothing, even if she was wearing a full-on wet suit, her figure would still be visible.
Ironically, this exchange supposedly took place a few months after Hill said he’d prefer it if people stopped commenting “on my body.” “It’s not helpful and doesn’t feel good,” he posted to social media.
The texts also allegedly show Hill sarcastically talking about modeling “Go model! It’s a fulfilling life you’ll [love] it. Real depth and substance for sustainability of relationships.”
The exchange can be found below. These can be triggering for those who have escaped/are in and emotionally abusive relationship. So please processed with caution:
Brady in turn has been dragged for posting these things right after Hill and his current girlfriend, Olivia Millar, welcomed their first child together. “I hope my ex has a daughter,” Brady wrote on Instagram. “Maybe she’ll turn him into a real feminist.”
“Keeping it to myself was causing more damage to my mental health than sharing it could ever do,” Brady wrote in a (now deleted) Instagram post. “I too, struggle with mental health but I do not use it to control ppl [sic] like he did to me. I think fame can put people in an echo chamber of viewpoints, which can enable emotionally abusive behavior. Being an emotionally abusive partner doesn’t mean they’re a terrible person … At the same time, it doesn’t mean it’s OK.”
During all of this drama, she has also been posting old images of herself that she had previously removed. With captions like “reviving a pic I took down by request of a narcissistic misogynist.”
Hill has not responded to these accusations.