I’m Mark Wilson, a relationship coach assisting people with cheating issues. In addition to coaching, I offer therapy for sexual and relationship concerns, helping individuals and couples in their love lives.
Infidelity – is one of the most widespread problems many people face in relationships. Wikipedia reports that research indicates approximately 30-40% of unmarried partnerships and 18-20% of marriages experience at least one instance of sexual infidelity. The questions “Who cheats more, men or women?” and “How can you find out if someone is cheating?” are among those who bother most human hearts. These are the questions we’ll discuss in this review.
Why Do People Cheat?
As practice shows, men often show a stronger influence of physiological factors on their cheating behavior than women, where psychological factors tend to play a more significant role. And what is more, rebuilding relationships where a man has cheated is easier than when a woman has betrayed. Many hurt partners can back it up. I assisted those who have told me they’d prefer it if the affair had been purely physical, without any emotional involvement. Could you imagine this?
Who Cheats More?
In the past, men were historically more likely to cheat than women. However, everything has changed, and now the rates of infidelity among women are rising. Why? Because they now have more career options, equal income opportunities, and spend more time at work. These changes made many women feel more independent and confident, helping to change patterns of infidelity.
Nevertheless, recent data reveals an interesting fact: women tend to cheat slightly more among married adults aged 18 to 29. However, when considering adults over 30, men consistently exhibit a higher likelihood of engaging in infidelity.
How to Catch Cheaters?
As Steve Maraboli once said: “You didn’t just cheat on me; you cheated on us. You didn’t just break my heart; you broke our future.” Indeed, infidelity can destroy trust and the couple’s shared dreams and plans for a future together. However, what should you do if you notice a suspicious partner’s behavior? How to catch a cheater?
- Suspicious behavior: pay attention to the suspicious behavior of your partner (increased secrecy, late work hours, unexpected schedule, sudden care about their appearance, trying to hide their phone, and more.)
- Check their cell phone: take your partner’s phone and check call logs; look for repeated call numbers and those with long call durations.
- Consider their reachability: if your partner does not answer cell phone calls during work hours or at home, it may be a sign they are trying to hide their real-time location from you.
- Use a GPS tracker or a phone tracker: this method will help you detect where your partner is, check those places they frequently stop at before arriving home, and view their phone activities.
- Check if they are busy as claim: many couples I’ve helped have shared that their partners often claim not to want to spend time with them but prefer to “hang out” late at night with friends. If your partner avoids spending time with you, be cautious; they might be looking for companionship elsewhere.
- Trust your guts: hear your instincts, but do not jump to conclusions too quickly.
- Try open communication: never underestimate open communication with your partner. Don’t be afraid to share your feelings. By doing so, you’ll reveal the truth even without the need to spy on them and, if you’re lucky, strengthen your connection and understanding in your relationship.
Final Word
I always recommend couples to communicate with each other. Silence can be detrimental, so always appreciate communication’s pivotal role in preserving and enhancing a relationship.
